If you put your self-love in someone else’s hands, then you can’t control it when it breaks or when they toss it out. I wrote something down after a session with my therapist: ‘I don’t want to lose myself in fear of losing him.’
I am deeply saddened and shocked over the current legislation that is now in place against the LGBT community here in Russia. In my opinion, it is inhumane and it is isolating. Some people have demanded that because of this legislation, I must not come here to Russia. But many, many more people asked me to come and I listened to them. I love coming here.
I want to show them and the world that I care and that I don’t believe in isolating people. Music is a very powerful thing. It brings people together irrespective of their age, their race, their sexuality, or their religion. It does not discriminate. Look around you tonight. You see men, women, young and old, gay and straight. Thousands of happy Russian people enjoying the music. We’re all here together in harmony, and harmony is what makes a happy family and a strong society.
❝ If I were just your average 23-year-old girl, and I called the police to say that there were strange men sleeping on my lawn and following me to Starbucks, they would leap into action. But because I am a famous person, well, sorry, ma’am, there’s nothing we can do. It makes no sense … I am just not OK with it. It’s as simple as that. I am just a normal girl and a human being, and I haven’t been in this long enough to feel like this is my new normal. I’m not going to find peace with it.
In fact, [Bella] is stronger than the guy she is with, emotionally. Fight for the thing you love—you are a remarkable person if you do it. It’s a cop-out to think that girl power is all about gusto and ballbusting.
Here’s the thing about the “Don’t be a Bella, be a Katniss” meme going around; it’s wrong, but people are saying it’s wrong for the wrong reasons. We want to compare Katniss and Bella with how “strong” they are and how each is valid in their own right because of that. Wrong. Bella is not strong, Katniss is not strong. Yes, they risk their lives for people they love. That’s strong, but it’s a strong act. As people, these characters aren’t inherently strong. Bella needs Edward, so much to the point that being without him makes life seem unworthy. Katniss is jaded, to the point that she pushes away everyone to keep to herself. And then after the games, when she finally lets Peeta in, she’s never truly happy. The games ruined her. So let’s not talk about Strong Female Characters.
What bugs me the most about this meme is how it’s pitting two great series against each other. Two series, which I might add, that have nothing in common. We could talk about love triangles but that’s so common these days that I don’t even count it. Also, it’s pitting two women against each other. And these women are also nothing alike. Bella clings to Edward because he shows her a better world than her own. Katniss runs away from boys because the thought of getting married and having kids in her world petrifies her. But why is Katniss Strong, then? Here’s why, because even though she ends up with Peeta in the end, it’s still not a happily ever after. Katniss is Strong because her story isn’t a love story. Bella is Weak because her story is. This is how we define strong vs weak in YA literature and it needs to stop.
Neither Bella nor Katniss are perfect. Neither of them have it all figured out by the time their respective series ends. But both women have figured out a way to live their lives with the lot they’ve been given. To me, a Strong Female Character should be one that inspires me to live my life to the fullest. Both Bella and Katniss do that. So to that meme I say, why? Can’t I just be both?
"Such a part of me is just being myself, and even if it’s goofy and stupid and weird and people disagree with it or think it’s ridiculous at times, I know that people that are close to me care about me and love me.”
I feel like I'm still learning a lot. I think there's a tendency for people who are just doing their first couple of films that I see now where they seem to be really resentful of the technical limitations that come along with filmmaking
” I wish I didn’t have to show up in these dresses — we look like demi-gods when we show up. I want to be able to run around and not have my feet feeling like they’re going to fall off ”